Impressing A Girl You Don’t Know Well

Often a situation may arise wherein you do not know the woman very well but still you need to impress her. Perhaps you met her in an elevator or a store and you want to take things further. We list a few things that can help you to get success with an unknown woman.

  • Dress to impress

     Not only will you look and smell more attractive, taking care of your grooming shows her that you're mature and capable of important daily tasks. Also pay attention to the style of clothes that she wears, and wear the same style of clothing, this will help her to relate with you and find you overall more attractive. And pay particular attention to these areas.

  • Be polite

     Being well-mannered doesn't mean you're boring — it means you know how to treat other people with respect, a quality most girls want in their boyfriends. Show her you know how to be considerate by doing these things for everyone, not just her:

  • Think before you speak

    Everyone slips up and says stupid things, but try your best to limit it when you're around this girl. Take a few seconds to evaluate what you're going to say before you spit it out. Don't talk up other girls. You might think making her jealous is a good idea, but steer clear. Discussing the looks of other girls in front of her will make you seem shallow and fickle. As far as she knows, she's the only one you're interested in. Don't tell dirty jokes. There's a time and place for wicked humor  and it's when you're hanging out with your guy friends. Keep on a lid on it when you're around her.

  • Pay her a sincere compliment

    One thing you should say when you're around her is a nice, genuine compliment. It's not as difficult as it seems! Think of what you like best about her. It could be her smile, her laugh, her intelligence — whatever strikes you as her best quality.

  • Make her feel special

    Find little ways to let her know that you think she's an extraordinary person, and she'll definitely notice. Don't ignore her or play hard to get. If she texts you, text back. If she wants to talk, try to make the time even if it's slightly inconvenient. Go out of your way to help her. If she could use a hand with something, offer your assistance! It could be carrying heavy or cumbersome items, going with her to run an errand, or talking to her through a difficult situation.

  • Get some space away from her

    It's the hardest thing to do when you're crazy about a girl, but it's the only sure way to get out of the friend zone. If you want her to see you in a different light, you have to take some away time so your relationship can reset when you start interacting again. Commit to being in minimal contact with her for at least 3 or 4 weeks. It sounds like forever, but you can do it! Be polite when you see her, but don't hang out with her, don't engage in long phone calls, don't go on dates, and answer her texts with replies that are short and to the point.

  • Spend time on self-improvement

    Dedicate the hours you would otherwise spend with her (or thinking about her) to feeling better about yourself. You'll be a new and improved guy with better self-confidence, whether or not she's interested in that at the end of the day. Remember that you're not doing it for her right now — you're doing it for you, so that you feel like the best version of yourself. Step up your grooming. Try making your routine a little more rigorous, and see how it affects your self-esteem. Amp up your skincare, tries a different hairstyle, shower more regularly, try new cologne, and so on.

  • Make a new first impression

    After you've been away for awhile, you'll have the chance to make another "first" impression when you're ready to interact with her again. If you can play it the right way, she'll start to see you in a whole new light. Look your best. Put extra effort into looking as good as possible when you feel like you're getting close to seeing her again. That way, your next meeting won't catch you off-guard.

  • Don't offer your time so freely

    Instead of being constantly available for her whenever she wants, make her work a little for your attention. For instance, you're not available to come over and watch romantic comedies with her while she complains about her latest break-up; however, you are available to take her to dinner on Friday if she's interested. Draw a clear line between things you used to do for her in the friend zone, and things you're willing to do for her as a potential boyfriend. Be vigilant about sticking to this difference.

  • Don't waste time

     After you re-initiate contact, don't wait months to ask her out or otherwise move the relationship to the next level. Do it within the week. Ask her out on a date that is clearly romantic. That means: dinner, on the weekend, just the two of you. She'll get the hint. State your feelings for her in a clear, confident way. Let her know that you're interested in being more than friends. Tell her you'll accept her decision if she's not interested, but you can't keep languishing in the friend zone.

  • Accept her decision

    If you've tried everything to impress her and she's still not interested in dating, back away gracefully. Sometimes the spark just isn't there. You tried your best, and there are other girls out there who will appreciate the person you are. Move on with confidence!

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