Flirting Via Instant Messenger

What to Say, What NOT to Say, and How to Say It

Whether you’re flirting with a girl over the phone or from behind a computer, the concept is the same. Charm her with witty comments, not corny pickup lines. The one advantage you have when flirting via IM as opposed to over the phone is you can take your time to think about what to say. That doesn’t matter if, even given extra time to consume your thoughts, you still don’t know what to say and how to say it. So here are some tips that will help you out.

  • What to Say 

    Flirting requires a bit of creativity. Playfully tease her. Give her compliments, but not too much. If you’re constantly complimenting her, she’ll think you are a fake. Another great way to flirt is to just make her laugh.

  • What NOT to Say

    Stay away from discussions about her personal life, religion and politics. You’re trying to learn how to have an affair and you’re not going to do that by offending her. Politics and religion are sensitive subjects. Telling jokes is good, unless it’s a communal joke. However, if she herself forwards some politically motivated messages, you should similar messages not as par your choice.

  • How to Say It 

    Each comment you make should be short and to the point. Long-winded IM messages are annoying. Also, make sure you express the proper emotions with smiley faces and exclamation marks. Otherwise, she will have a hard time deciphering if it’s a sarcastic, friendly, joke, serious, etc..

  • Flirting Over the Phone

    Flirting over the phone is more difficult than on the computer. You have to think of a response right away. The one benefit to phone flirting is, it’s much easier to express emotions. The following strategies can be used to charm women over the phone and ensure she’ll want to meet up.

  • Speak clearly

    Don’t slur your speech or act nervous. This is a major turnoff to women. It shows a lack of confidence.

  • Compliment her

    Even if she doesn’t really have a sexy voice, just tell her that she does. Compliment her about her profile photo. Ask whether she has clicked it herself or got it clicked by some professional photographer.

  • Tease her

    Find a goofy habit that she has and tease her about it. There’s no better way to flirt other than by teasing.

  • Be aggressive with her

    The alpha male gets the woman 99% of the time. If you’re hesitant to ask her for a date, some other guy will snatch her away. So be bold and go ahead.

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